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Strephon Says RSS Feedhttp://www.strephonsays.com/index.htmlStrephon Says Newsenstrephon@strephonsays.comCopyright 2008 Strephon Says2008-05-05T21:16:19+02:00 hourly 1 2000-01-01T12:00+00:00 Wed, 09 Apr 2008 23:20:55 +0200Strephon Kaplan-WIlliamsStrephon Saysstrephon@strephonsays.comhealing,dreams,nightmares,spiritual,dreamwork,psychology,dreamwork,consciousness,awareness,inner life,message,insight,creativity,challenge,change,strephon kaplan-williams,psychology,guideness,ego,therapy,dream therapy,Jung,Jungian,wholeness,dream JourneysLife perspective from philosopher-psychologist Strephon Kaplan-Williams.Strephon Kaplan-Williams, international dreamwork expert, analyzes dreams and life situations for personal consciousness and effectiveness in life. Use for inspiration and perspective on self-development following the wisdom of your dreams.Consciousness Commitmentstrephon@strephonsays.comMedia2008-05-05T21:16:19+02:00http://www.strephonsays.com/teachings/commitment_files/1a5bf22497ffe53ada00556db88d0d9b-0.html#unique-entry-id-0http://www.strephonsays.com/teachings/commitment_files/1a5bf22497ffe53ada00556db88d0d9b-0.html#unique-entry-id-0CORE PRINCIPLES

Live from core principles, such as balance the energy, integrate opposites, create wholes including all the parts, choose to integrate and affirm new unities.

REALITY AWARENESS

Live from awareness of what is. This means accept all of reality as it comes your way, rejecting nothing. Yet balance the energy. Don’t try to overwhelm someone or something. Don’t lose. Don’t win.

CHOICE

Make choices, choosing one thing and not other possibilities. Choice is the one absolute. What we choose is what we become.

GREATER GUIDANCE

Choose to follow greater guidance than ego in your life. When you do this you have the larger perspective. You do not put your own ego desires first but choose a greater value to live by.

You make choices based on core principles and values.

You make purposeful and meaningful your life.

COMMITMENT

You make a sustained choice to live from a greater source than ego. You do not fail this choice. Commitment to a value is the sustained choice that underlies all other choices that you make in daily life.
]]>A Strephon Story strephon@strephonsays.comStrephon's stories2008-04-06T13:41:54+02:00http://www.strephonsays.com/teachings/commitment_files/e8fd9c085c2972cd2ae5c0e6545f9258-2.html#unique-entry-id-2http://www.strephonsays.com/teachings/commitment_files/e8fd9c085c2972cd2ae5c0e6545f9258-2.html#unique-entry-id-2An Ambition Story:
I once called together three other writers on dreams to found a society for the study of dreams and dreamwork in the many approaches. Unbeknownst to me, one of the writers manipulated a meeting of our founding committee by introducing there her husband and her friend, both psychiatrists. We met in her house so she just took over the meeting, forcing another important member to resign.

Her ambition had gotten the better of her and she had run roughshod over the rest of us. She had commitment, but again of the compulsive kind. She took over by a kind of force and changed the organization to one run by herself and her people at first.

She was committed to her own career and image but not to the value of cooperation with others who had trusted her. Her commitment, her single focus was to herself and power, no matter the damage to others who to her stood in her way.

Commitment itself is not a value but a method of will-power to prevail over others or over a situation or problem. It has been said Hitler was committed, but to what? The death’s head symbol and to killing others in order to obtain control over them and their resources.

The Teaching:

Commitment is not enough. Commitment to a positive and One World Value is more like it. Don’t destroy in the pursuit of a new community value. Don’t run rough-shod over people because you think exercising personal will is a value for yourself when it may in fact be destructive to yourself and others.

AGENDA FOR COMMITMENT FORMAT

I agree in making this commitment with myself and you that I will stay focused on a certain value, goal, service or project for a certain amount of time we both agree on, say three years.

This means that the choice I make to the value defined will be an overriding choice that I do not go against if at all possible for me, despite whatever circumstances come my way to obstruct the choice and goal.

Definition Of This Commitment:

Goal:

Value:

Resources Committed:

Specifics Of This Commitment:

Strength Of This Commitment:

Time Length Of This Commitment:

Steps In This Commitment:

Specifics Of This Commitment:

Fundamental Choices To Be Made Starting Now:

Ongoing Way Of Reporting On This Commitment:

How We Or I Process The Ongoing Results Of This Commitment:

Relating Involved In This Commitment:

Termination Procedure And Date Of This Commitment:

Procedure: Of course discuss each of these aspects of making a commitment with anyone else making the same commitment with you, like to a marriage or business partnership.

If just for yourself, then you can write freely to all these aspects, and then refine them down into clear sentences that represent what you are to do in making a certain commitment to yourself.

Of course we don’t just make commitments to others. How many of us have made almost formal commitments like this to ourselves? And if so, how did it all work out?

The tool of commitment can be highly effective. List also distractions or weakening actions that can destroy a commitment you try to make.

not being clear at the beginning what you are committing to
not being clear at the beginning how you are carrying through on the commitment
not being clear on how you make choices in life that you carry through on
not being clear on whether you are capable in resources and personality for making such a commitment
not being realistic in what the goals and values are of the commitment
not being realistic whether you have the power, knowledge, resouces and cooperation of others needed to carry out the commitment
don’t commit to the impossible
commit to the possible
don’t try and make the impossible possible
do try to make the possible actual if it has the chief value

COMMIT TO BEING COMMITTED IN LIFE

Still don’t know what to do? Read this:

If you don’t know what Commitment means or how to do it, start today or tomorrow, no, tomorrow is too late, with a little commitment you know you can carry through on. Once that commitment is successfully carried out, then make a bigger more challenging commitment and carry through on that as well. Thus, keep building your strength in carrying through on commitments you make.

RESOURCES

-buy and read Strephon’s book, My Greatest Loves, on how he develoed commitment in his relationships life and what resulted when he or others did not commit to themselves or the relationships started.

-buy The Jungian-Senoi Dreamwork Manual to learn how people committed to working with their dreams stuck with their process, or gave up on it.

-sign up for our Three-Month Mini-Course On Commitment. This course is a self-help weekly lessons course that you get from us and do at home. You commitment to changing some aspect of yourself by doing the lessons from Strephon Kaplan-Williams and reporting your results on the Comments page given you. You have access to all of Strephon’s teaching videos on the subject as well as the comments of others who also have done, or are doing, the mini-course. By carrying through on the course commitments you will change some aspect of yourself. We ask that you commit to the course and commit to change for the better some aspect of yourself. We do not judge you as to whether you failed or succeeded, as happens in school systems. We support you in experiencing a struggle to develop commitment within yourself.

-people are often asked to achieve goals not having experienced commitment training in itself. They are not prepared. So by working through our course you experience yourself working with the ways to develop committed actions and choices in your life.

-unsuccessful people are almost always uncommitted people

-successful people are almost always people who know how to commit to values and projects and achieve values and success in a committed way.

-if you don’t sacrifice what you have for what you don’t have you will never succeed in your chosen goals and purposes in life.

Just to show some commitment here in the moment you can choose right now to write down some of your thoughts fresh from reading this material. No one is telling you to do so, however.

You can try and live your life by trying to get people to tell you what to do. Or you can live your life by committing to values and projects that you carry out yourself, thus growing in strength and skills for what you can accomplish in life.

]]>Choicemakingstrephon@strephonsays.comMedia2008-04-05T21:39:00+02:00http://www.strephonsays.com/teachings/commitment_files/0994ac7fa9ac321a8bb803deaa6551e0-1.html#unique-entry-id-1http://www.strephonsays.com/teachings/commitment_files/0994ac7fa9ac321a8bb803deaa6551e0-1.html#unique-entry-id-1If you don’t learn how to make effective choices you will always be reacting to life instead of acting in life.

You are in conflict, little or big. Time to make a choice.

A choice is saying Yes to one thing and No to everything that opposes it. We direct energy one way and not another.

We sacrifice certain possibilities in order to have other possibilities. There is no one right choice. There are only choices and their consequences.

What we choose is what we become.
There is no simpler way than to list in separate lists the minuses and pluses for a certain choice.

Yet first list what are the possibilities in the situation? You have a problem, a potential to realize, a conflict to solve.

◆ List first the possibilities for an outcome that can be effected now or in the near future. From these possibilities pick the most desirable for you and the most possible.

What you want may not be possible. You may have to want what you get, rather than expect to get what you want.

List the possibilities realizable now or in the near future. Pick the best and most realizable. Make lists for and against these possibilities.
List what you have to give up if you make a choice for something. List what you might gain. List the values for going in a certain direction, making a certain choice.

Now before you choose, also make conscious the fundamental choice underlying all your choices. This is a value you live by. To solve the dilemma of what to do or choose for refer to a fundamental value you have chosen to live in this life.

Try to choose from positive motivation and not negative motivation.

Negative motivation is choosing from fear, from what could go wrong. Choose for what could go right. Risk for the new value.

Now make your choice if the time is right and you have the means to carry through on your choice.

Choose and never look back.

Choose by saying Yes to the one thing most valuable, and also say No to all that go against the value you have chosen.

Make an absolute choice, ending any ambivalence. If you go back on a choice you were not really making a choice.

Now deal with the consequences of your choice. Enhance the rewards. Make them conscious and create with what comes of your choice.

Express gratitude in some way that positive things are happening out of your choice.

If negative things are happening out of your choice, sort out their reality. Are they really bad, or do you need to see that actualizing your choice is turning out to be more difficult than you thought?

Stay with the program until after the results are in. Then appreciate the results if positive or deal with the results if negative. You can repair almost anything.

Choices do not defeat you, though their consequences might. You only defeat yourself by wanting too much and not seeing reality as it is.

At least you tried and have learned more about how things work in life. There is almost no choice that is not redeemable. Yet take responsibility and deal with the choices you have made, and their consequences.

Affirm fundamental values.
Trust the process.
You have nothing to lose but your unconsciousness, your fears and your longings.
Trust the process.
Never look back or all may be lost. Your future is before you, not behind you.
Choose, and what you choose is what you become.

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