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On Death And Dying Sept 28 2009

• Must we fear our own dying?

I have always thought that cancer people are given a conscious and evocative death. Their loved ones and friends are also given time to relate to the cancer person. It certainly is happening with me.

I find at this stage wherein I certainly may be in my dying process that my main concern is to finish up important things in my life. One is getting married so that Stefania can have all the rights she is entitled to, such as being able to live in this better level apartment after I am gone. She has to have been married to me to be able to stay here the rental agent told us. Other rights are to my unpublished works if they are worth publishing.

This is a specific then to accomplish when alive, so we are moving towards that goal.

On the meta level it is the recognition that purposeful goals in life are stepping stones along the path of life’s journey.

I have accomplished many things of value. If I die now soon I have some book-writing projects unfinished. This is not so good, but things don’t always get finished, do they?

On the meta level this is recognition that my existence is a mixture of completed things and uncompleted things.

Not finishing the books, if this happens, will be a regret but I must not see it as a disaster, yet not my destiny, and maybe a little poor planning, but mostly that my individual existence runs out of time to exist.

I’m having interesting thoughts about the past and the significant experiences of my life.

Regarding former lovers and friends I have been letting them go for the last years now. I have been letting go of other intense and inspiring experiences as well.

‘I will never do that again,’ I say to myself. ‘What a mystery to know that something important has ended for me. Life does not go on. Experiences are not repeated just because you like them and want more of the same.’

What to do with a memory and dying?

When I am having a strong experience of my existence in life it usually seems so important that I want to have it again. Sometimes I could have a similar experience when I lived with full vitality and functionality.

Yet finally I started dying.

1. Dying is when you experience a life episode only once.
2. Dying is when you cannot have repeat experiences and realize this.
3. Dying is letting go of living.
4. Death is letting go of dying.
5. Death is you are no more.
6. Death is that you have no purpose or effectiveness for existing.

Is there life after death?

Is there existence after life?

Maybe not an important question to me because I am fully dealing with this existence in a body now as it is.

If I, whomever that can become, find myself self-aware after my body dies then we shall see what the rules are to exist by then.

• When you are dead you have no life, yet do you also have no existence?

Jung in an interview posted on the web stated that your existence goes on.

• Maybe Jung became a ‘voice for humanity’ because he was more insistence on having definite views than I am.

For me I don’t insist on truths I don’t directly experience.

At this stage the truth of my situation is the daily struggle just to survive and function in this body I now have.

I seek doctors and healers to have more health than I have now. If this does not work I give up my life to death, my creativity in writing, and let go what my life has certainly been.

And die …

The price we all pay for our existence is to experience going out of existence, if that becomes our way to go.

What Our Dying Process Can Mean To Us

Some don’t die aware they are dying. They are not the lucky ones because they miss out suffering through all sorts of major issues and being able to experience what they are like in their own dying process.

Yet suffering is suffering. It is not the easy way to die. It is an aware way to die.

I am continually amazed at how life goes on as I look out the window and see the new drivers taking lessons in the driver training cars that use our extra road outside.

Or the people walking dogs. Or the people who have helped us.

I have done those things also, and other things that most people can’t do. My existence has been blessed with purpose, so ‘all is good.’

Maybe I am experiencing a natural distancing process, the kind I don’t want to happen to me by my friends?

Distancing it is. Becoming a witness and not an actor in the play of life, creating value and purpose with your life.

Well, I have worked that one out, a perspective on dying and death. It already makes me feel more positive in my present existence.

And you?

How is your existence working for you?

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