Do we judge others? Is it effective? Is it ethical?

In my early thirties I suffering a terrible divorce. I truly loved my first wife, Laure? But I mangled the relationship. I had the evidence now, that despite five years of good Jungian analysis and a fine intelligence, I was not successfully in charge of my own life. What a bull-shitter I was!

What to do?

I attended conferences in Berkeley and elsewhere in California. I was looking for teachers. Not only what they said about their process they taught, but how they and their followers lived that same process?

I quickly came to realize how many ‘teachers’ were bull-shitters. They acted contrary to their key ideas. Their followers were empty bags filled with a few false notions that did not fit my experience.

Therefore I realized, you do indeed judge people in life, and had better learn to do so. There are too many sales people out there trying to take my money and life.

I looked for those who were living to the core, not perfectly, the process they taught. This has made all the difference.

An imperfect teacher makes a perfect student.

I had a lot of learning to do …

Strephon

It was a joy to see you again, be together again and talk about what most interests us.

I propose that we not dignify with the expression “human being” any humanoid primate that has not developed to a high degree his human potential. Our world is full of humanoid primates, almost all of whom mistakenly consider themselves to be human beings, while the true human beings that there may be naturally consider that they have not reached such status, this at least as a Work tactic and also as a belief about self based on long and convincing evidence.

Each humanoid primate has the potential to become a human being, but that requires many long years of hard work on oneself, in the company of companions in the same endeavor and teachers. Here give I praise to my teachers, large and small. There are no perfect teachers, since every teacher must be a humanoid primate himself. He who waits for the perfect teacher will never haave any teacher. We generally find, or are found by, the teachers appropriate to us, but what we manage to learn is mostly up to us.

Has one fulfilled one’s essential self in life? It seems to me that the answer here must never be yes or no, but is a matter of degree. I¡m not sure that most people don’t fulfilled their essential selves in life at all. Perhaps not much, but who am I to judge the other guy? I know I don’t want to claim that I have fulfilled my essential self in life in an absolute sense, nor even en any relevant relative sense. I don’t think it’s a good tactic to imagine having won such a victory.

Best regards,
Arthur